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The Toxicity of Shame

Last Thursday night I was invited to speak to a Celebrate Recovery night at Life Church in Olathe, KS. The topic that I choose was shame. Below are the notes from that session. The Inner Child We do not choose what family or belief system that we are born into. As we grow through the stages of development, dysfunction and traumas can lock us up emotionally. These events can be shaming events. We start to think that shame is about us instead of what happened to us. Healthy Shame Knowing your limits The feeling that lets me know that I’m limited Without healthy shame, I’m not in touch with my basic boundaries Boundaries utilize the word NO An addiction is not being able to say NO Toxic Shame

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Spouse Selection

Have you ever wondered why you selected the person that you did to be your significant other or spouse? Did you create the list of all of the qualities that you wanted and go after that person? Or did you decide that the person that found you or came across your path was just the right one without having to put a lot of effort into analyzing if it would work or not? Did you end up selecting someone just like your mom or dad without even intending to? I often hear women say that they married someone just like their dad and men say they married someone just like their mom. Maybe you have said that many times to yourself or maybe in the

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True or False

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A few weeks ago I was having a conversation with a friend about tolerance in our world. I believe we have strayed far away from truth so much that we are blinded as a world by tolerance. The following Sunday after this conversation was had, I was at a service at our church and Pastor Clint throws out this quote: “We live in a society that has exalted things like tolerance, diversity, peace, and harmony so much that I fear we may value them more than TRUTH.” – Clint Sprague This started me on a quest throughout the last couple of weeks of looking for the tolerance around me. As a therapist, many of my patients are a reflection of tolerance taken too far. They

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Do You Want an Intentional Marriage?

You deserve to be intentional in many areas of your life. One of the areas that I will challenge you in is your marriage. Whether you are married or engaged, your relationship needs time and attention in order to make it successful. Don’t miss this opportunity to examine the effectiveness of your marriage and be more connected and intimate with your spouse. NAVIGATING MARRIAGE INTENTIONAL CHOICES MARRIAGE WORKSHOP (download brochure) Led by Marriage Coaches: Bryan and Stephanie Vignery Gary and Christy Kuzmich Our mission is to assist couples to plot a course through intentional choices that result in action that empowers growth. Today’s marriages need intention more than ever before. With the divorce rate at approximately 50% percent for first marriages, 67% for second and

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The Locker Room

There is a quote, from a new movie titled The Grace Card, that was impactful to me. I believe it speaks greatness no matter if you are a believer in God or not. It has the ability to give us a perspective to be a “make-it-happen” man or woman. If we all took on this challenge I believe our world would look a lot different. So often, if you are anything like me, we can get caught in this worldly perspective of presenting all things in a palatable way so we won’t offend anyone around us. As if we are in control of them anyway. I have challenged many to “get their jersey dirty” and live life 100%. I believe this quote helps us to

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The Power of Change

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CHOICE: Catalyst for Change Choice is POWER. Choice is FREE WILL. It can bring us closer to or further from our dreams. Each decision I make points me to the road of success or the path of mediocrity. Many of us act as if were in rudderless boats drifting in the sea of life. Our destination? Who knows? We arrive wherever the currents and tides take us. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You see, the boat we’re in has a rudder! It can steer us to the shore of success. That rudder is CHOICE. If we use it with intention, we can become the captain of our destiny. What is your rudder? Is it friends? Is it events? Is it the fixed dysfunctional beliefs of

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Intentional New Year

As you embrace 2011 you deserve to be intentional in many areas of your life. One of the areas that I will challenge you in is your marriage. Whether you are married or engaged, your relationship needs time and attention in order to make it successful. Don’t miss this opportunity to examine the effectiveness of your marriage and start 2011 more connected and intimate with your spouse. NAVIGATING MARRIAGE INTENTIONAL CHOICES MARRIAGE CONFERENCE (download brochure) Led by Marriage Coaches: Bryan and Stephanie Vignery Gary and Christy Kuzmich Our mission is to assist couples to plot a course through intentional choices that result in action that empowers growth. Today’s marriages need intention more than ever before. With the divorce rate at approximately 50% percent for first

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Merry Christmas!

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I wish everyone a Very Merry Christmas and I hope that you and your family are Blessed this Holiday Season and may 2011 be full of growth!

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Ineffective Responses to Conflict

The drama triangle (sometimes known as the victim triangle) is a model of dysfunctional social interaction, created by psychotherapist Stephen Karpman. The triangle consists of  three ineffective, passive-aggressive responses to conflict. Participants playing a role in a drama triangle create misery for themselves and for others by playing either the Victim Role, Rescuer Role, or the Persecutor Role. The three psychological roles (or roleplays) which people often take in a situation are as follows. VICTIM– The person who is treated as, or accepts the role of, a victim. The play the “poor pitiful me” role. They: Feel victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed They deny responsibility for their negative circumstances, and deny that they possess the power to change those circumstances. Look for a Rescuer

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Holiday Stress

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Well whether we like it or not the holidays are right around the corner and that means Thanksgiving Dinners, Christmas parties, family visits, in-laws, children’s school functions, Christmas shopping, etc. Are you feeling stressed yet? Let’s look at some of the top stressors during the Holidays and the ways to reduce the stress that can normally happen around this season. Top Stressors During the Holidays Relationships Relationships can cause turmoil, conflict or stress at any time, but tensions are often heightened during the holidays. Family misunderstandings and conflicts can intensify, especially while spending several days together in the same house. On the other hand, facing the holidays without a loved one can be tough and leave you feeling lonely and sad. Finances With the added

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