Empowerment Language is used to self-empower rather than self-sabotage. Making statements based on TRUTH (self-empowerment) rather than LIES (self-sabotage) opens the creative process. When we use Empowerment Language it creates a solution model rather than a permission model.
Permission Model
* Muted tone of voice and distant
* Closed and ashamed body language
* Soft and sporadic eye contact
* Doubtful and weak attitude
When a person is working from the Permission Model, they are working from the victim role. They are looking through the typical glasses or lenses that haven’t been challenged. The Permission Model creates a set of behaviors that are not working for the individual. It is like running into walls time after time, all day long.
In the Victim Role, a person has Blind Spots that are getting in their way, they have a tendency to Blame Others, they get stuck in the “I Can’t” Excuses, and they sit for a period of time in the Wait and Hope mode of life. The “Whoa is me!” attitude.
When you are working from the Permission Model, what do YOU create in your life?
Solution Model
* Strong and direct tone of voice that is convincing to self and others
* Body language that is tall and proud and communicates confidence
* Firm and continuous eye contact that ensures security
* Confirming and believable attitude
Working from the Solution Model, you are creating a new set of behaviors and communication that are working for you. Let’s call it the Behavioral Method. The Behavioral Method is a specific structure of external and internal experiences, which consistently produces a specific behavioral result. It is when your thoughts, communication, and your behaviors are congruent. This would be working from the Accountability Role.
In the Accountability Roles, there is an Acknowledgment of Reality, the person will Own It the situation and their own part in it, they will Find Solutions to the situation and they they will GIG IT (Get It Going).
When you are working from the Solution Model, what do YOU create in you life?
Bryan;
I like this piece. In fact, with your permission, I'm going to modify my own communication discussion using this blog as a handout.
Mike e.
Go for it Mike! Glad you liked it…part 2 will be posting today at 10am….
bv