Normally when I see couples they are coming in with some sort of a crisis. I hear about how the crisis started and start the journey through the facts to assist the couple overcome what is taking place. I had the rare opportunity last night, on my flight home from Boise, to sit next to a couple who were expressing their affection to each other in a very outward and public manner. I overheard the woman say; you’re 43 years old? You should’ve told me that! They for sure grabbed my attention. He then proceeded to tell her; what does it matter? Then they continued their conversations.
As they continued to talk through some very surface information about each other I started to figure out that these two were married…but not to each other. After spending the weekend running a Focus Seminar, I really was not wanting to be part of the conversation at all, but I couldn’t help overhearing what they were talking about. For 2-1/2 hours from Las Vegas to Kansas City this couple planned their affair! They planned how they would keep it from their spouses. They planned when and where they would meet up. They planned how they would spend time together. It was at this point in time that I really realized that these two were blinded from the consequences on the horizon!
Blind spots are something that we all struggle with at times. They are called blind spots for a reason…we don’t know they are there! In the situation that I witnessed first hand, there were many blind spots in this “couples” life. They have no idea of the heartache to come for themselves and for their spouses when they find out. It is comparative to driving a car toward a bridge that is out, with a blindfold on! They are going to go plunging off the cliff. It is just a matter of time.
Your blind spot may not be leading you toward a bridge that is out but I’m suggesting that it is leading you toward a life of ineffectiveness. The key to uncovering your blind spots is finding those that you trust who can give you open and honest feedback. Those friends or mentors that will tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. I challenge you to find that someone that you trust, and be open to hearing what they have to say.