Are You Inspired?

By on April 9, 2014   /   Coaching, Counseling, Spiritual   /   Leave a comment

Inspire – To influence, move, or guide by divine or supernatural inspiration (Merriam Webster – Present Day) Inspire – To infuse or suggest ideas or monitions supernaturally; to communicate divine instructions to the mind. In this manner, we suppose the prophets to have been inspired, and the Scriptures to have been composed under divine influence or direction. (1828.mshaffer.com 1828 edition of Webster’s American Dictionary of the English Language) It is interesting to me to see how definitions of words have changed over the decades. The comparison of the two above-mentioned definitions of the word inspire, shows the tolerance of which is applied to today’s culture. I believe that when we close the gap on the tolerance, we start seeing fruit in our lives that creates

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BELIEVE!

By on February 19, 2014   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige, Parenting, Spiritual   /   Leave a comment

A Part of My Story I have been on a journey of influence since 1995. Not in my wildest dreams would I have thought as a kid that I would be telling you that I would be an influencer. I was always the one being influenced and following the crowd to fit in. There was no way that I thought that I had enough value to influence anyone else. So I continued to live my life submitting to everyone and everything else, no matter if it were healthy or unhealthy. This past of mine created a lot of havoc. I wouldn’t have been able to step into a position of influence without embracing the past that told me that I would NOT be an influencer.

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Influence

By on June 26, 2013   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige   /   Leave a comment

One definition of the word “influence” is: The capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself. Influence has always been something that has amazed me. People can be influenced by many different things in many different ways. Some people are easily influenced by others. Some people are influencers and have a tendency to influence everyone that they are around. At some level each of us has influence over the people around us. It is up to us to determine “what”, “how” and “why” we influence others. Who are you? What do you believe about you? What is your deepest “Why?” These are questions that each of us will come across and start to answer

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Transformation

By on January 24, 2013   /   Counseling   /   Leave a comment
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It is quite apparent to me that we are all on a journey that is individual and unique. This journey that we are on is interesting in regards to how we have no idea of what is coming ahead of us! Of course we can foresee some of the things that are going to take place and we can plan for certain outcomes based upon how things have played out in the past. But for the most part we have no control on what is on the horizon. When it comes to the reality of what’s ahead, there are multiple behaviors and emotions that can play out. These behaviors and emotions are rooted deeply in the beliefs that we hold about whatever our “reality” has

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T.I.M.E. with Children

By on January 7, 2013   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige, Parenting, Spiritual   /   Leave a comment

Tonight I recorded a radio show with Neil Haley, “The Total Tutor” (totaltutor.net) and we talked about TIME. The audio of this broadcast will be coming soon. In the meantime, here are the points that were made in regards to TIME. – Take a Time Out of your business, chores, entertainment, media and whatever else gets in your way. Take that time to connect with your children while you still have them around to connect with them. – Invest in the relationship through hearing your child and understanding the needs they are expressing. It is important to listen in to what your child is telling you. Sometimes that is in a non-verbal way…especially if you child is younger than three years old! – Meeting the needs

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The Reason for Christmas

By on December 16, 2012   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige, Spiritual   /   Leave a comment

When I was eight years old I remember a distinct time of searching for something to make sense to me. It was a tradition in our family to take a summer vacation to Kansas City to watch a Kansas City Royals baseball game. My grandfather was a minor league player back in the 30’s and I remember that he loved to go and watch the Royals play ball. Some of the memories of this time escape me but at some time on that trip someone had given me a bible. I remember that it was something that I held close to me on that trip and continued to hold it close once vacation was over. After returning home from the trip I recall an evening

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Respond or React?

By on December 4, 2012   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige, Spiritual   /   2 Comments
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Responding or reacting, that is the question! I’m going to suggest that we do both each and every day. Responding and reacting is something that I have tossed around for quite a few years. I find that there are traits that are polarizing and cause a big separation between the meaning of the two words. So as I was sitting in a session one day I wrote out these separating factors on the whiteboard. (see the picture to the right) This list is certainly not all-inclusive; there are many things that we do when we RESPOND and there are many things that we do when we REACT! Think about when we are driving in traffic and someone cuts us off or is driving too slow

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Getting Physically Healthy!

By on November 26, 2012   /   Coaching, Counseling, Spiritual   /   Leave a comment
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I remember the first time in my life when weight started to become an issue. I was just out of college and I was living an out-of-control life. Part of that out-of-control life included out-of-control eating. When I jumped on the scales and I was over 200 pounds I was shocked! For my frame, that was a lot of weight. I had never weighed that much in my life. It hit me that day that I needed to start doing something about my weight. Shortly after, I went and I joined a gym. As the salesman was showing me around the gym I remembered him telling me that 13 laps around the track was a mile. The first day in the gym I remember running

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Blinded

By on November 5, 2012   /   Coaching, Counseling, Marraige   /   Leave a comment
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Normally when I see couples they are coming in with some sort of a crisis. I hear about how the crisis started and start the journey through the facts to assist the couple overcome what is taking place. I had the rare opportunity last night, on my flight home from Boise, to sit next to a couple who were expressing their affection to each other in a very outward and public manner. I overheard the woman say; you’re 43 years old? You should’ve told me that! They for sure grabbed my attention. He then proceeded to tell her; what does it matter? Then they continued their conversations. As they continued to talk through some very surface information about each other I started to figure out

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